Movies and You

Movies and You

After finding some time to watch some interesting movies which I actually loved, I thought to talk about movies. Movies are one of those entertainment modes which is there with you when you grow up. As for me, I grew up with Hindi movies. One of my earliest memories of movies is seeing Sridevi dancing to “Me thera dushman” in Naagini movie. Though I do not watch as many Hindi movies now, I still love listening to Hindi movie songs. For me they are the best songs with beautiful music, lyrics and amazingly good choreography.

The first ever English movie I watched at a movie theater was Jurassic Park (1993). I was three years old and so terrified that I kept my face turned away from the screen until the whole movie finished. Yes, I did not watch it. However, as I had the luck of getting an opportunity to explore more English movies as I grew up by now T-Rex has become my favourite dinosaur and I absolutely love those movies.

Movies have this way of letting us explore other people’s imagination in colourful images. A good movie can satisfy you in a special way. It can have a massive impact on the way you see the world. That is why every decision we take about the movies we watch have to be carefully made too.

As for me, when it comes to movies I follow one simple rule. I only watch the movies I want to watch. People can advertise all they want and friends can tell me all they want that I should watch this movie and that, but I will only watch it if I want to. This mainly happened because some movies recommended by other people ended up being horribly dissatisfying to me and also because now I only have a limited time to watch anything so I would like to invest it in watching something I want to watch. However, taking the recommendation of someone who has a similar taste to you is always fine.

Every one of us expect different things from movies and also experience them in different ways. Sure, there are always times when a movie you are expecting to watch ends up being really bad. However, after a while, when you have watched enough movies you develop a certain instinct which lets you know what kind of a movie to expect by watching the trailer.That is as long as it is clear to you trailers should be taken with a grain of salt.

Therefore, as a movie fan, make your own decisions. Read a review or two from sources you trust if you are unclear about a movie before going into see it. Also, when someone asks you if a certain movie was good or not, tell them what you think making it clear it is your idea.Their reaction to the movie can be completely different from yours.

Ego: The Destructive Enemy

Ego: The Destructive Enemy

Anyone has the right to be proud about what they have achieved, how good they are at what they do, how special they think they are. However, that does not mean just because someone is extremely intelligent that person gets to look down on all the others as stupid and useless people. When you reach that level of pride where your self-importance makes you blind to the achievements and skills of other people, it means you have an ego.

An ego is not good for your professional life or your personal life. You can be as good as a lush green plant growing with beautiful leaves and flowers. However, for someone who looks from outside another plant could be better looking and more useful than you are. Therefore, you also need to understand your worth can be subjective too as for someone else another person with a different skill set or a different look may be more beautiful and useful than you are.

You can be a doctor who has become one after passing all the hard exams and doing a lot of hard work for years. You are healing others. That is true. That is not something just anyone can do. However, that does not give you the right to demean others by saying things such as the only degree worth studying is medicine and all the other degrees are incomparable to it because it is so important than all the other degrees. I have seen people expressing such views. To me personally and to anyone, who does look at everyone in the world appreciating how they are taking an effort to contribute to this world in any way they can, this is an insult. Only someone’s ego will make them not see that a world needs every kind of profession, every type of people and every type of skills to function.

If you are really hoping to help someone you will criticize their work or some choices to show them the right way. However, if you are only driven by ego you will criticize people only to demean them as the only thing you can feel is how superior you are to them.

Therefore, what you have to remember in life is quite simple. Be proud about yourself, however, not so much that you start seeing the world with eyes clouded with too much ego, too much self-importance.

Bohemian – The Free Spirited

Bohemian – The Free Spirited

One day in last December I got up in the morning feeling more anxious than usual because I was supposed to meet a surgeon on that day to discuss about a surgery that needed to be done. It was not a major surgery, but still it required me to go to an operation theatre and face the procedure.It would also mean for a month or so I would not be able to walk properly. So, yes, I was anxious and not very happy.

Then, I connected to the internet to check my emails as usual. And with a ‘ting’ sound comes a Facebook message. It is from a friend of mine and it says “This photo reminded me of you.” The following photo is there.

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And I felt thrilled. For the first time since I got up I actually smiled genuinely. I thanked him back then and there. To know when someone sees me and sees this aesthetic and lighthearted side of me is a compliment of the highest level for me. It is small precious moments like these that help us get through the hard times when we feel overworked or even burdened with difficult situations.

I have never been a traveler in the literal sense. I do not believe I will ever be since I find comfort and happiness by staying where I am and where I am used to. However, I am a traveler when thinking from a symbolical sense. I do try to travel the world of ideas and writing the best I can to see what I can contribute to them, to see what I can learn from them all the time. I will continue to do so because my thirst for that travel, that adventure will never be quenched.

Being a bohemian always comes naturally to you. However, since most of us are raised with a set of rules and socially accepted norms from the childhood we do not realize we have such a free spirited side to ourselves until we face some kind of a situation that helps to get us the right exposure to the society we live in and also a chance to know who we are for real. Only then, at the right time, we decide what exactly we want to be. It is up to you how you want to proceed from there because you can still be a bohemian without being like the rest of the bohemians too.

Making Progress and Measuring Progress

Making Progress and Measuring Progress

Yesterday when I was watching Koffee With Karan at home I heard quite and interesting idea from Sidharth Malhotra. He said even if he stop working now due to some reason he will still be happy, still be grateful for where he is today because he came to the industry from nothing and compared to that today he has gained so many things. In a way it surprised me because not so long ago I was thinking along that same line of thought when I was thinking about progress with regard to my life and my career.

When about an year ago I definitely came to the decision of becoming a freelancer that was not something every one else was about to accept. That is because here in Sri Lanka apart from a few people who actually are involved in that trade freelancing is not something that is considered as a real job, it is relatively an unseen  and unheard of profession. A real job is where to go to an office everyday, get a salary and holidays and get promotions and such. Working from home and that too unattached to any company is a relatively unknown field and a relatively unacceptable working method for most. Fortunately, my family has understood though my career choice is unusual it is actually a career since they do know about the field and I was able to properly explain everything to them too.

Since I have ever since found clients and are happy about the path I am taking at the moment I actually am pretty content in what I do. I have also grown a rather thicker skin when people do not understand what I actually do as a profession and give those weird glances and ask unnecessary questions.

Then, comes the question how to do I measure my progress because I do want to be able to keep in track of that in this very different line of work. I am capable of doing that in normal ways such as how much of a monthly income I get and also in different methods that are not used by employees who are working for a company in a normal job. Though I am not earning millions I am earning something sufficient to take care of my needs and contribute to my family too. I come into contact with great clients. In a way, even if I come into contact with horrible people I get to learn more about people that way.

Being a freelance writer and translator does not mean now that I found the ideal career for me all is taken care of. I still have my personal goals to reach. However, I am grateful today to the place I am. An year or so ago I was without a job and was frustrated when even passing exams was not giving me the opportunity to work. Today I have made progress as someone who made an unusual career choice in my country. Someday I hope to be the one who made a valuable and positive change in her life through this bold decision.

What You Do Not Wish For

What You Do Not Wish For

As soon as we discover that we can make certain wishes we start making them to get what we want. In childhood, it could be getting a princess tiara that we always wished to have or a cool fire truck. These wishes are actually quite simple and most of the time fulfilled because our parents are in charge of making them come true.

As we grow up, we learn that wishes do not come true just because we want them to come true. We have to work for them. If we want to become a doctor, a ballerina or a writer we have to work for it. We have to practice that art and learn what needs to be learned if that wish is to come true.

Then, at a certain age of maturity, we start to realize how some things  that came to pass without us actually wishing for them have changed our lives. Sometimes, we understand how actually what we wished for did not happen while something we have never actually wished for completely changed our lives. You could be someone who was wishing to marry and settle down at a certain age. You could also have had a relationship at the time. However, somehow that relationship could have ended and with its end could have opened a door for a great career for you. It could have taken you some years until you finally realized this was actually the happiness you were wishing to get from life. Therefore, it is sometimes what you do not wish for which has more value and impact on your life than what you actually wished for.

Therefore, we should understand in life having certain wishes and fulfilling them is fine. However, those wishes should always be something good, something that you have made with a calm mind without letting your emotions have control over your mind. Sometimes, what you do not wish for matters more than what you wish for because it has a greater impact on your life than what you have actually wished for.

Finding Hope

Finding Hope

Life is not always easy. We do not get always what we want. Most of the time, we have to work really hard to get what we want to achieve. Sometimes, all that hard work pays off and we feel satisfied because we have been able to achieve what we set out to achieve. However, at times, no matter how much hard work we put into we do not get the expected results. When that is due to our fault we blame ourselves and get over it. However, when it is someone else’s fault it is very hard to forgive that person. Nevertheless, when we grow up we learn to forgive people who did not intentionally harm our success and let go of those who only try to bring us down.

At times, there are difficult situations in life that are very hard to get over. Sometimes, this is a certain betrayal done by someone whom we loved with our whole heart. Sometimes, it is a certain medical condition that keeps haunting us time and again making us suffer both physically and mentally. These situations will seem like conundrums at those times because it is too painful to face those situations at the time and at that moment when we look at life everything seems so bleak and so hopeless. However, at each and every one of these moments, it is always important to find hope.

You may wonder why anyone should bother to find hope when life has showed there is no beauty in relationships with betrayals and there is no peace in a sick body or mind. Well, we have to still find hope because we have been fortunate enough to be born in this world as a human being. If we do not take advantage of the time we have to live as a human, no matter how little that time is, there is no use in being born as a human. It is folly to forget every good thing that has happened to you and every blessing you have been given in this life because of one bad thing, no matter how bad that thing is.

Sure, when we are beaten down we do need some time to process that. We do need time to think about that pain. However, we have to bounce back up. That is when having a good support system matters. I have always been fortunate to have a good family who always understands me and lifts my spirits when I am down. Even when I do not feel like it, I get up because of them at times. Also, every time something horrible happens which makes it hard for me to be happy I try to focus on all the good things I have in my life. My family, my career, the small comforts I enjoy, all the books I get to read, all the good people I get to work with, they all come into my mind and make me realize I have been lucky. That is enough for me to find hope until the storm passes. We all have such a safe place, such good thoughts that can make us stronger to face the world, not to lose hopes because of the pain we have to bear. We just have to find it.

Therefore, no matter what happens do not lose hope. Life is precious even if it is not as comfortable, happy or long as we would like it to be. Focus on the good part and do something good with the rare life you have gotten.

The Right Kind of Change

The Right Kind of Change

For the past few months, while I was engaged in translating a book, I came across this idea of change with regard to the success in the corporate world. In that book, the author, a successful Sri Lankan industrialist and philanthropist, tells that it is necessary for a company to change if they are to achieve success in the corporate world and continue to hold on to that success. However, he also advises the change a company is going to accept should be one that takes it to a better position not one that makes it lose the position it already has.

I understood what he was speaking about. At the same time, my mind went more to the side of changes in personal life. If life is a treasure, we should know how to use it aptly. Otherwise, we would end up spending our life without achieving anything especially because we are afraid to change.

Why Change is Necessary?

Change guarantees the success of a business. In the same manner, it guarantees the success of personal life. Sometimes, when things do not happen the way we want it to happen or sometimes because things do happen the way we want it to happen, we need to change to adapt to the situation. For example, if you have been yearning to go to a university once you get the opportunity you should not say you cannot go because of the hazing. Most of the time, there are ways to escape such grim practices. Only if the situation is too unbearable and dangerous should you decide to quit. However, deciding to protest against the change will just take everyone else forward while you stay in the same spot.

Choosing the Right Kind of Change

However, even though change is a good thing, choosing the right kind of change is very important. For instance, think that you want to be a better writer. However, while you are searching for ways to become one someone comes and tells you if you shave your head you can become a better writer. Shaving a head and writing does not have any connection. Therefore, you should be smart enough to understand that is not the kind of change you are looking for. You should be looking for a mentor or a group of readers who can help you improve your writing.

By the way, this change does not only apply to your personal life decisions . If affects to every decision you make as a person, as a professional and even as a citizen. Therefore, at any situation, try to choose the right kind of change that will do good.